In honor of Valentine’s Week and all of us who have found Mr. Right
I don’t claim to be an expert in love and marriage but I am lucky enough to work with many couples in planning their wedding and hearing about their love stories. I have to admit I am a sucker for tradition and love and want all of the facts. A lot of wedding planners read design magazines but whenever I see or read something that talks about love, marriage and weddings I am immediately drawn to it. I think everyone deserves to live happily ever after.
Marry Him reminds us what’s important. I know many young women who are single and I too shared many of the same opinions. I encourage single women to read Lori’s book and find “Mr. Good Enough”. I found my Mr. Right at the age of 30 and am so glad I waited for him to come along. I often hope for my single friends to find love. Marry Him will give you a new prospective on dating. We don’t want our friends to get caught on the top floor alone. We all deserve to find love. If you are lucky enough to have found love, I encourage you to pass Lori’s book along to a friend.
Here’s the background from the author herself:
You have a fulfilling job, a great group of friends, the perfect apartment, and no shortage of dates. So what if you haven’t found The One just yet. Surely he’ll come along, right? But what if he doesn’t? Or even worse, what if he already has, but you just didn’t realize it? Suddenly finding herself forty and single, Lori Gottlieb said the unthinkable in her March 2008 article in The Atlantic: Maybe she, and single women everywhere, needed to stop chasing the elusive Prince Charming and instead go for Mr. Good Enough. Looking at her friends’ happy marriages to good enough guys who happen to be excellent husbands and fathers, Gottlieb declared it time to reevaluate what we really need in a partner. Her ideas created a firestorm of controversy from outlets like the Today show to The Washington Post, which wrote, “Given the perennial shortage of perfect men, Gottlieb’s probably got a point,” to Newsweek and NPR, which declared, “Lori Gottlieb didn’t want to take her mother’s advice to be less picky, but now that she’s turned forty, she wonders if her mother is right.” Women all over the world were talking. But while many people agreed that they should have more realistic expectations, what did that actually mean out in the real world, where Gottlieb and women like her were inexorably drawn to their “type”?
That’s where Marry Him comes in.
By looking at everything from culture to biology, in Marry Him Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face—how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate. Here Gottlieb shares her own journey in the quest for romantic fulfillment, and in the process gets wise guidance and surprising insights from marital researchers, matchmakers, dating coaches, behavioral economists, neuropsychologists, sociologists, couples therapists, divorce lawyers, and clergy—as well as single and married men and women, ranging in age from their twenties to their sixties.
Marry Him is an eye-opening, often funny, sometimes painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of the modern dating landscape, and ultimately, a provocative wake-up call about getting real about Mr. Right.
Marry Him has been optioned for film by Tobey Maguire for Warner Brothers.
Click here for an interview with Lori
Click here for Lori’s interview on the Today Show
Lori Gottlieb is the national bestselling author of STICK FIGURE: A DIARY OF MY FORMER SELF. She has also co-written I LOVE YOU, NICE TO MEET YOU and INSIDE THE CULT OF KIBU. Her radio commentaries can be heard on National Public Radio and her journalism has been published in The New York Times, the Atlantic, Time, People, Elle, Self, Slate and Glamour. Her newest book, MARRY HIM: THE CASE FOR SETTLING FOR MR. GOOD ENOUGH, takes an in-depth look at modern dating, marriage, and what really makes for a happy long-term romantic partnership. Visit her website at www.lorigottlieb.com.